You're Doing Everything Right and You're Still Exhausted
You show up. You follow through. You're the one people call when they need something handled, and somehow you always handle it. So why does it still feel like you're one email away from falling apart?
I'm Becca, a licensed therapist who helps women like you stop people-pleasing and running on empty just to keep everyone else comfortable.
If you're a woman who's tired of being "the strong one," who feels like you have to earn rest, and who can't remember the last time you did something just because you wanted to (not because it was expected of you), you're in the right place. Whether you'd call it high-functioning anxiety or just being a woman who does too much, I see you.
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You don't need someone reciting symptoms back to you from a textbook. You need someone to name what's actually going on, whether that's overthinking every text you send or something else entirely. Maybe it looks like:
Saying yes when you mean no, then resenting yourself or the other person for it
Replaying conversations at 1am, sure that you said the wrong thing
Feeling like your worth is tied to how much you get done
Anxiety that shows up as a tight chest, a short fuse, or a brain that won't turn off
A sense that people don't really see you
None of this makes you broken. It makes you someone whose nervous system learned, a long time ago, that being agreeable and capable was the safest way to move through the world. That strategy worked. It got you here. It's just costing you more than it's giving you back.
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When people hear the word trauma, they picture something big and obvious. A single terrible event.
But a lot of what I see in my office is quieter than that. It's growing up walking on eggshells around a parent's mood. It's being the "easy" kid because the house couldn't hold one more hard feeling. It's learning early that your job was to keep everyone else comfortable.
None of that looks like a crisis from the outside. All of it shapes how you show up in your relationships, your career, and your own head, decades later.
You can know, logically, that you're allowed to rest, say no, or take up space. And still feel like you can't. That gap between what you know and what you feel isn't a character flaw. It's how your nervous system adapted to survive something, and it's exactly what therapy (especially EMDR) is built to close.
How I Can Help
I work with adult women in New York, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and Maine who are ready to stop overfunctioning and start actually feeling like themselves and that they are enough. Sessions are online (telehealth), so you can do this work from your own couch instead of rushing to an office between a million other things.
Anxiety & Perfectionism
When "good enough" never feels like enough, and your nervous system is stuck in overdrive.
Self-Esteem
For the woman who can list her accomplishments but still can't shake the feeling that she's not doing enough, or being enough.
Trauma
For the experiences that shaped you even if you'd never call them "trauma." We'll work through what's still running the show.
I work through these using two approaches:
EMDR Therapy
helps your brain and body catch up to what you already know logically
Talk Therapy
helps you understand the "why" behind your patterns.
We'll figure out together which one, or which mix of both, fits what you need.
What Working Together Would Feel Like
I get what you're dealing with on a personal level, not just a clinical one. So I show up real and human, not like an expert who tells you what to do.
Think of me more like a friend (with boundaries) who happens to have the training: someone who can be in your corner, and who also notices when you're slipping back into an old pattern and says so.
That means warm, but honest. Supportive, but willing to hold you accountable.
Ready to Feel Less Like You're Managing Everyone Else's Comfort?
You don't have to have it all figured out before you call or email. You just have to be curious about what it would feel like to stop carrying so much.
I offer online therapy for women across New York, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and Maine.