Talk Therapy for Women, Online

You might not have a name for what's going on yet, just a sense that something's not working. Maybe it looks like:

• Falling into the same patterns in relationships without knowing where they started

• Reacting in ways that feel bigger than the moment actually calls for

• Wanting to make different choices, but not knowing where to even start

• Feeling like you're guessing at what you need, instead of actually knowing

Talk therapy is where we build that understanding together, then turn it into something you can actually use.

These patterns didn't come out of nowhere. A lot of them trace back to your early relationships: the roles you played growing up, the beliefs you absorbed about what was expected of you, and what you learned to expect from other people. None of that makes you broken, it makes sense given what you learned early on. Over time, those beliefs turn into automatic thoughts and habits that keep repeating, whether or not they're actually still serving you.

In our work together, we'll look at both where these patterns started and how they show up in your thoughts, emotions, and sense of who you are today. Understanding the pattern is the first step. Building the skills to actually interrupt it is the next.

In this work, we look at both:

• where these patterns come from (psychodynamic lens)

• and how they show up in your thoughts, emotions, and choices today (CBT / DBT lens)

Over time, these ways of coping can become automatic even when they no longer feel helpful.

This approach blends psychodynamic therapy with CBT and DBT, so you leave sessions with real tools, not just a better vocabulary for your patterns.

That combination tends to help you build real awareness of where your patterns come from, recognize them as they're happening instead of only after the fact, and use practical skills to respond differently in the moment. Over time, it also tends to build a stronger, steadier sense of who you are, one that isn't constantly shifting based on what everyone around you needs.

Sessions are collaborative and reflective, with practical, skills-based tools mixed in wherever they're genuinely useful, not stuffed in because "coping skills" are supposed to be part of therapy.

We'll slow down together, look at the beliefs and thought patterns driving your reactions, and connect what's happening now to where it started. From there, we build the specific skills, whether that's identifying and challenging a thought, or tolerating a hard emotion without acting on it right away, to actually shift how you respond.

This approach might be right for you if you:

• Notice the same patterns repeating but aren't sure where they come from

• Struggle with self-doubt or overthinking and want to understand the "why"

• Aren't totally sure what you actually need or want anymore

• Feel disconnected from your own emotions most of the time

• Want real, practical tools for changing how you think and respond, not just a better understanding of why

• Are in the middle of a transition and trying to figure out who you are now

I'm not going to just nod along while you talk. I'll ask the questions that actually get somewhere, reflect back what I'm noticing, and help you connect the dots between what happened then and what's happening now. This work moves at your pace, but it's not passive, we're actually working toward something changing, not just talking around it.